Anne was slowly losing her eyesight and short-term memory due to a stroke. Her husband wanted to reorganize closets and add voice activated electronics to help with daily routines, but when I asked Anne how she wanted to spend our coaching time together she said, “I want to go to lunch and talk!” Anne needed social stimulation (a lifestyle choice) not electronic stimulation (a situational choice) so we began to coach over lunch. In time I learned Anne could speak five languages, she was an advocate for abused children, and she once had a potbelly pig as a pet! Socializing was the key to reducing Anne’s mental stress, and as her love tank began to refill, change became easier to accept and the emotional chaos she and her husband were experiencing slowly began to disappear. What can you do to crush chaos? How about starting with soup and a sandwich!